Some Secrets Are Necessary

Good afternoon!  My six-year-old son Javier learned about tornado safety at school and has since been obsessed with tornado's.  Every time it rains he asks the question, "Mommy is there going to be a tornado?" Today my mother-in-law and I were watching the devastation that occurred down South in terror and amazement.  My son, he watched the video footage of the tornado and was not afraid, he said, "mommy the people were suppose to run and get into their bathtub with a blanket not drive their car because tornado's are dangerous!" We weren't even thinking about about the guy driving the car while filming we were too busy looking that the dark, monstrous funnel cloud while it ripped through the town.  Children are very observant, they tend to pick up on the small things that we as adults seem to overlook.

What Happens In Vegas.....

Someone asked me if my husband and I kept secrets from one another her theory is that in a marriage there should be no secrets.  To an extent I agree, in a marriage there should not be any profound secrets, he should know almost everything there is to know about me and vice versa.  However, are there times when letting your mate know something about you detrimental to the relationship?  I think about the character Jovanna in my book Skeletons, Jovanna is about to marry the man of her dreams and they were heading towards a blissful future. However, Jovanna has a secret that could ruin her chance at being happy as well  as endanger the life of her fiancée.   If a person has a secret and they know that if this skeleton were to come out of their closet it would damage their life should they tell their mate or should they keep it well-hidden?  Does it depend upon what type of secret it is and what kind of damage it could cause in the long run?  Would it be easier to just continue the lie in hopes that your loved one never finds out?  But what if they did find out, was the lie worth loss of trust that your loved one once had for you?  Sometimes what happens in Vegas is better left in Vegas, but sometimes we need to bring home souvenirs to let our loved ones know what was hidden in our closets.

Running From your Past Can Slow You Down

In Skeletons, Jovanna is running from her past, but what she fails to realize is that she was running on a slow moving treadmill on a path to nowhere.  No matter where you run your past stays with you and no matter how much you think that you have changed your past stays the same.  Jovanna finds out the hard way that the past cannot be changed with a new name, new hairdo and designer clothes because you cannot change what was, but by facing what was head-on you can change what is or what could be.  By running from your past and covering up things about you, one only slows down the progress of their current life.  Instead of focusing on what is ahead of you; you are too busy trying to cover up what is behind you.  What happens when you run a race by looking behind you?  Do you run faster or does your pace get thrown off slowing you down until you either trip or stop? 

Lets Face It

Everyone has a secret or two that they are keeping from their mate; rather it be the fact that you went shopping last week and spent the car note money or that you fart in the bed while they are asleep.  Everyone has something hidden in their closet that they'd rather not tell their mate about, but when that skeleton in your closet is holding a knife or a secret child it is only fair that you tell your mate about it.  Letting the big things out of your closet from the beginning will prevent a lot of broken hearts in the long run.  

TTFN!!!