You Wanna Put That Banana Where! Unleashing Your Inner Freak

Does the rubber duckie make you blush? Or does the sight of a rubber gag ball and latex turn you on? Let's face it we all have a little bit of freak lurking inside of us somewhere and there isn't anything wrong with that!  However, what happens when you cannot unleash the beast dwelling within and it affects your sex life?  What happens when your inability to turn your mate out turns your mate off?
There is nothing wrong with a little bit or a whole lot of freak in a relationship; in fact, I conducted my own survey of how kinkiness helps a relationship and most people say that they love it when their mates pulls out Pandora's box from time-to-time.  Some people love to be dressed in latex, tied up, rubber-balled and whipped while wearing nipple clamps.  Who are we to judge that is their thing.

Prudes Are Rude!

I am a strong believer in whatever someone else does in their room is their own business, but there are some who think that kink is wrong.  These prudes are the ones who I see protesting the sex shops in your local small town, they shun porn and will throw stones at you for saying that you enjoy the occasional anal probe.  It is rude to come into my home and tell me what to do in my bedroom so notice to all prudes stay the hell out!  Kink may not be for everyone so if it isn't for you thats fine just leave those who enjoy it alone to do their own kinky little thing. 

Underneath That Suit Lies A Super Freak!

Bringing out the kink isn't easy though, you have to judge when is the right time to ask your partner to put the banana in their ass, you have to wait until the right moment to show them the pink furry handcuffs and studded paddle.  Showing someone your other side takes time and finesse so don't go breaking out the animal costumes on your first date!  However, when you have been with someone for years and sex feels more like a chore than an adventure that maybe the time to take off the prude suit and show him/her the rubber thong. In my upcoming book, Skeletons, Mike and Santana have hit a plateau in their twelve-year marriage and she is feeling that after being together for so long and giving birth to two children that Mike is no longer sexually attractive to her.  This is not uncommon that after such a long relationship things start to feel stale and that is when it is time to ignite the flame once again.  

Bondage isn't for everyone, however there are other ways to keep things fresh in the bedroom.  Try a new position, watch a XXX flick with each other, break out the can of whipped cream or bottle of Nesquik, or if you both are game pour hot candle wax on each other.  The point is do something don't just let your sex life go down the drain because you are to lazy to do anything about it.  Sex is a major part of any marriage and it is important to keep things hot with your mate.  Let go of your inhibitions this is the person that you share a bed and a life with for Christ's sake!  There is nothing to be ashamed of and if you buy a stripper pole and decided to tantalize your mate with a reenactment of Playa's Club and you fall and hit your head, dust yourself off and laugh then laugh some more.  My husband and I aren't really kinky but we have done somethings that make us laugh to this day because sex is about fun and relaxation.  Sex should not be a chore. 

 Go ahead, let loose, grab the dog chain, hang the sex swing up (just take it down when the kids wake up) but most importantly have fun with one another. Oh and If you find a can of whipped cream under my bed trust me we weren't making ice cream sundaes.

TTFN!