The Forgotten Art of The Booty Call

Rather you call it friends with benefits, a hook up, a fuck mate or your cuddy buddy it all means the same thing, a casual sex relationship.  While this can be fun and rewarding, it is also a delicate relationship that has to be handled with care to avoid emotional attachments that could eventually lead to hurt feelings.   If you are single, but still want the sexual benefits of a relationship without the commitment of the relationship then a booty call may be right for you.  Some people may blush at the mere thought of having a relationship with someone that is based purely on sex, but if both parties are willing and able I say why in the hell not.  Just make sure that you set the ground rules first.

The Rules of The Booty Call

Both Parties Must be Single

No Emotional Discussions

Avoid The L-Word Like the Plague

Do Not Go Out In Public

Avoid Calling, "Just to Talk"

Always Wear Protection

Avoid Spending The Night

Do Not Let Jealously Ruin Your Fun

If both parties can agree and abide by these simple rules things will go smoothly and you will live happily ever after in cuddy buddy heaven.  Or will you? 

We Are Only Human

As much as we would like to think we can separate our emotional feelings from sex, we are human and a huge part of our sexual compatibility is emotional; even for men.   I am not talking about a one-nighter where you meet someone at a bar, hook up and never see or hear from this person again.  No, I am talking about a friend with benefits which is someone that you have an ongoing sexual relationship with.  Besides the obvious reason of having great sex, there is something that keeps going back for more.  Maybe you like spending time with this person, but you don't want the confines, responsibility or expectations of being in a relationship.  Maybe you want an actual relationship with this person, but you are to chicken shit to admit it so you settle for being this person's toy for the time being. Whatever the case may be if you have an on-going sexual relationship with someone that has lasted over the span of months or in some cases years, there is a reason behind this and it isn't just for the sex!  

The Blacklash of The Booty Call

One reason that I call this post the Forgotten Art of The Booty Call is that people tend to forget what they signed up for when dealing with someone just for sex.  People tend to forget that we are human and as human we want and need to be wanted and needed.  We want to be touched, kissed, held, talked to, taken out on dates and ultimately loved.  It is an art for someone to be able to casually hook up with someone for an extended period of time without any emotional ties to that person, thus this art is forgotten.  

When you are with this person for a 'hook-up' and he/she leaves after the deed is done, leaving you  wanting more; is that something that you can tolerate?  If you do develop feelings for the person, express them and find out that those feelings aren't shared, the friendship and hook up is damaged because things have become too complicated. Finding out that your friend has been friending other people is another backlash of the booty call.  Remember, jealously is not part of the cuddy budy pact so deal with it. 

If you see this person on an actual date with someone else, you cant get mad  remember discretion is part of the agreement in a booty call relationship; therefore, you have agreed to remain silent in the background like an extra in a movie.  Is that something that you could handle?   If your booty call decides that they no longer want the hook up , they just stop calling you and won't answer your calls then you find out that they now have a mate that is just part of the deal.  You have no choice but to accept it.  Because you were just a 'friend'.

A booty call is not as simple as one may think because while this person is not your mate you are giving him/her a huge part of your life and that should be important to you just as it should be to them.  Now, I have had casual sex relationships and they were great, but you have to know when and how to terminate things so that you two remain on good terms without any hurt feelings.  This is the forgotten art of the booty call and if you can handle it remember to handle it carefully.

TTFN!