A Player In Your Own Mind

Hey guys! I haven't been able to log into Blogger for the past few days for some reason and I was frantic that I could not post anymore of my random ramblings, but I'm back!

Today's topic came from talking to a friend who was telling me about a guy that she is dating and really likes except one thing...he thinks that he is a player, but really he is only a player in his own mind thus he is playing himself.  See guys to be a true player you have to have certain things in place and without these essential things you are just playing yourself because you are too afraid to fall in love and risk getting your little heart broken.

You are a player in your own mind if you have a woman

A player needs to be available to date other women at all times and if you have a woman that is impossible to have that type of availability without your main woman getting all bent out of shape.  Now I'm not talking about a man cheating on his woman what I am talking about is being a player.  A player is that emotionally elusive man who is seeing several women at one time, never fully giving himself to one person.  It is not possible to be a player if you have a main woman because that means that someone actually has your heart and that you don't have the freedom of taking other women where you want to because you have to be mindful of running into your woman or her friends which could lead to disaster.  So remember guys, if you have a woman then your player certificate has been shredded.

You are a player in your own mind if you live with your grandma

Every successful player know that having your own place is essential to the game because you have to have somplace to take the ladies after your date.  If you have to sneak women into the house after your grandma has fallen asleep or if you have to constantly tell the lady to keep it down because she might wake up your parents then that is not sexy and your player license has been suspended until you get your own place.   Yes you could take the ladies to a hotel, but after awhile hotels get expensive and the lady is going to want to see your place eventually so it is best to have your own spot as to avoid a potentially embaressing situation. 

You are a player in your own mind if you drive a mini-van

Let's face it fellas, it is not fiesable to think that you are a player if you come to pick a lady up in a Caravan, Odessey or Voyager.  Driving a mini van means that you have three or more kids and since most single men wouldn't buy a mini van (even if they have kids) this also means that you are either married or attached to a lady.  A man jumping out of a mini van is just not player material.  Also, while a Toyota Camery, Corolla or a Sunfire are sensible cars that get great gas milege those are not cars that women necessairly connnect with a man that has player status.  Go ahead and purchase that Charger, Mustang or even a Phantom and leave the Town and Country on the lot if you are planning on being a player. 



You are a player in your own mind if your car is not up to par

Being a player is one part attitude, two parts swagger and the rest is about marketing and it is hard to be taken seriously as a player if you have a red car with a blue hood!  

Women will look the other way if you pull up to her trying to get your Mack on while your car is emitting harmful fumes and is louder than your stereo system. Before you try to get your player degree please check your car, make sure there isn't any visable rust, make sure that the door all open and close without the use of duct tape or a hanger, please make sure all of your tires are the same size and please do not add more pollution to the ozone with your toxic black smoke piping from the back of your ride.

You are a player in your own mind if you don't have the funds

Have you ever heard the term, 'you gotta pay to play'? As much as I hate to say it fellas you cannot be a broke player.   I know that in this economy it is hard to maintain not only your house and your car, but if you want to be a successful player you have to also maintian your bank account so that it is padded enough to be able to take different women to the movies, bowling, dinner, dancing and the such.  If you ask three women on dates then please be able to pay for all three activities and trust me these days a movie ticket is $10 or more.  If you don't think that you'll be able to afford to take all of these women out on your salary then consider getting a second job or a side hustle because you are going to need it.

You are a player in your own mind if you don't know how to play

Being a player means that sometimes you will get played and if you walk around sulking because someone played you then you are on the opposing team.  Players understand that if they play the game they are risking getting played, but players also know to keep their emotions distant so that they won't get attached to a certain woman only to find out that she too is a player then end up getting his heart broke.  If you are a sensitive man who wears his heart on his sleeve maybe you should look into marriage instead of being a player because it is a dog eat dog world out there and a lot of women are players who don't think twice about chewing you up and spitting you out.

I am making light of the matter, the fact is that most players are just people who have had their hearts broken at some point in their lives (early on) and have taken an oath of heartlessness.  People who play with the emotions, intelligence and time of other people who are seriously looking for love are often insecure themselves and think that they need the validation of several women to make them feel better about themselves.  It is sad, but often this is the truth.   Hey heart break is a part of life, yes it hurts and it is hard to put the pieces back, but it is through the heartbreak that you will heal, gain strength and be able to love again. 

TTFN